December 3, 2023 Sunday
Wait control. Wait control is the most important factor in weight control. Tomorrow, you will not even remember what you had eaten today. You might want to say satisfaction from the ingestion of food, is temporary at best. Mostly if you have a wait problem you have a weight problem. Before you even put your eating utensil down on your plate or into your bowl, you are already craving another bite. How much do you even enjoy the food you put into your mouth before you gulp it down? Do you savor the taste, chew the texture, and move the food around in your mouth before you swallow it? How many times do you choose to really chew each bite?
This is the third of December, and food is going to be in your face more than ever during the holidays. It is part of the tradition humans have for celebrations; Eat, drink and be merry, because tomorrow never comes. Wrong! God willing tomorrow will come. Then you will step on the scale and become sad when the digital numbers are trying to convince you, you ate too much yesterday. Maybe scales lie, but too tight clothes are pretty much truthful. You want to scream! It wasn’t your fault; everything tasted so good! Then again, it was not your fault, you opened the refrigerator door after you had slid your scale out of sight. You obviously did not have any wait control as you rubbed the sleep from your eyes this morning. What is really important to you, your size at the store or the food you eat? What matters to you, and why does it matter?
During my lifetime, I have been many different weights. I find it is no use beating yourself up because you do not have wait control. What weight is the perfect weight for you? Only you will know, and even you will not know until you reach the perfect weight, and then you will know what to eat to maintain your perfect weight. For instance, when I was in 6th grade, I weighed 120 pounds. When I got married, I weighed 139 pounds. In my ninth month of pregnancy, I weighed 180 pounds. When my husband died, I weighed 125 pounds. Two years later I now weigh 105 pounds. These are just examples, of my weight fluctuating up and down during the years of my life. I have decided my perfect weight is 105. I love being thin! I am 5feet 8 and 3/4 inches tall, I had the nurse measure my height a couple of years ago… I used to be 5 feet and 10 inches tall, I wear size 4 long Gloria Vanderbilt jeans and wanted to buy size 2 tall, but they don’t sell them. I guess I am too tall to wear size two! I am finally where I want to be. I want to eat to be healthy, but I want wait control so I can stay at 105… my perfect weight according to my way of thinking. I like being tall and thin! I also do not dye my hair, because I love having shiny short silver colored hair.
It is interesting, that I even remember my weights for certain times of my life. Until you figure out your perfect weight, by experiencing what it feels like, you will be like everyone else, with your weight. Up and down. Wait control or no control your choice. Be careful of elbow action during the next few weeks. You do not have to eat more, if you weigh your options before you go for the next spoonful of ice cream or your next forkful of mashed potatoes.
Here are some ideas to help you with wait control so you can get started if you want to lose weight or maintain your current weight during all of your celebrating:
#1 Cut out all snacking. You might not be able to or want to cut all your snacking out at one time. Take it one bite at a time. Cut out one of your least favorites first. Okay, keep the ice cream cancel the cheese doodles. The other thing to be aware of is when you were snacking, you always pick the thing you most want first. So, let’s say you get home from work, and you have a craving for a chocolate chip cookie. Or maybe you don’t work, and it is midmorning, and you are discontented or bored, so you reach for a chocolate chip cookie. You are not hungry, but they taste so good! After having one, and that does not satisfy you, you have another, and another, and another. What do they say about Lays Potato Chips… you can’t eat just one. That is usually the same with chocolate chip cookies or anything else you are craving. Okay, you are not a dumb person, so after knowing chocolate chip cookies are not doing the trick, why do you raid the refrigerator for your second choice. Maybe ice cream, yeah…ice cream is what will solve your need to eat. Wrong again. If your first choice did not work, why would your second-choice work? It won’t. But you are relentless, there is a third and a fourth choice. Guess what? You are determined to find happiness in your mouth. Alas, not today. So, what do you do? You go back and have another chocolate chip cookie, because that is what you really wanted in the first place. Okay, then finally you stop eating, but you are feeling guilty because you just stuffed your face with food. Overweight people eat very fast. Bite, chew, swallow, bite chew swallow. Fat people do not even take time to taste… just bite, chew, swallow. It is a vicious cycle. Food is supposed to be nourishment, not exercise for your elbow. So, number one is to quit the snacking by eliminating one of your least favorites and then the next and then the next. Don’t beat yourself up. It took a long time for you to get to the weight you are now. Give yourself time to get to the weight you want to be. Remember, you are not going to know your personal ideal weight until you experience your ideal perfect weight. Don’t give up on getting to it.
#2 Give up caffeine. Stop with the coffee and soda. Stop with anything that has caffeine in it. Again, this does not have to be cold turkey, but you have to want to change. Drink less caffeine, and pretty soon it will not be a craving, and you will not miss it. I went on a cruise once, and it was going to cost us an extra $200.00 for the week if we wanted to have unlimited soda. That was not going to happen. For one week we drank water and not soda. That was many many years ago and I have had almost no soda since. I drink water. I also gave up drinking coffee, because I spent a lot of money for new teeth and did not want to stain them. They are still beautiful, and I do not need or want to drink coffee anymore.
#3 Eat three meals a day. Normal meals, but do not pig out. The secret is to slow down. Stop eating so fast. Eat real food that you like… the kind your mother used to put on your plate when you were a child. Go back to the basics. By the way desserts are yummy, but you do not have to have dessert every night. Maybe once a week, in small portions. The day after you have a piece of cake you will not remember whether you had one small piece or one huge piece, so why not go for small. The day after it won’t matter. Remember to slow down! Enjoy your food. Taste each bite before you swallow it. Put your fork or spoon down after you have taken a bite. Eating is not supposed to be a race to see who can come in first. In the morning I have one small bowl of cereal. I do this most every day. I love the Cranberry Great Grains cereal. I put half a sliced banana and a handful of blueberries, strawberries or cranberries into my bowl. Then I pour in the cereal and finally the milk. Now get this, it takes me between an hour and a half and two hours to finish eating what is in the bowl. I am retired and have the time. Everybody is going to school or work, so I am usually writing or reading or watching U-tube shorts while I eat. Talk about eating slowly. Maybe I am taking it to a new level, but as long as you can put down your spoon or fork while you are chewing you will do all right.
#4 Stop getting fast food. None of it is good for you, and everything fast food is very high in calories, and also too expensive. When I was little, I could buy a McDonald’s burger for a quarter. The fast-food joints are now required to tell you caloric content of the items on their menus just in case you did not know. The only thing on the plus side for fast food, is it is fast. That is not so much of a plus because after you buy fast food from a drive-in window, you gobble it down like you have never eaten before and you will never eat again as you drive away. SLOW DOWN!
#5 The last suggestion I have, is cut down on portion size. It is okay to sometimes have a chocolate chip cookie, but it is never okay to have ten, or six or five. One is enough if you eat it slowly. If you eat it because you like the taste not because you are hungry, you can have a chocolate cookie. If you are hungry, go for the healthy stuff. Again… smaller portions.
A woman I know, who is in her early sixties has been trying to lose weight for a long time. She even had the operation to reduce the size of her stomach a number of years ago. Still, no long-term success. She might lose a few pounds, and then sure enough it comes right back on. She has tried everything. One day when she was losing all hope, she told me she had been fat her entire adult life. If she looks in a mirror she sees fat, and has always seen fat, it will be hard to see anyone other than a fat person looking back. Sometimes there is a reason for being fat, and you might need a nutritionist or a doctor to help you get beyond your own self-image. There is no silver bullet for changing your self- image. It takes time, desire and effort. No matter what, there is always hope. Never give up!
Have a wonderful afternoon! It is raining in my neighborhood. Rain is part of the equation for things in God’s world to stay alive. Let it be. stay warm and cozy in the place you call home. Take the time to reconnect with those you love, either in person or on the phone. Read a book, check out a crossword puzzle or even play Monopoly if you happen to live with a 15-year-old boy. It is your choice how you want your day to play out. Make yours a good one. Make it a very very good one!
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. I appreciate you so much!
Love,
Granny-o