She Wanted To Be

January 16, 2022

She wanted to be… She wanted to be one of those people who work on the tarmac of airports. As a child she wanted to direct planes into their airplane parking spaces with two red barreled flashlights, one in each hand. How cool is that, for her to know what she wanted to do with her life when she was still a little girl. She is now a senior in college, and she is going to get a job doing some kind of investigative research if she can find one. What happened to the airports and the red barreled flashlights? My daughter-in-law wanted to be a nurse from the time she was four years old. She is now forty-two and she is a nurse. She is really good at being a nurse. So compassionate and so knowledgeable. She loves being a nurse. Our son wanted to work in a job where a lot of smart people would get together and find solutions for problems. He is in a job where he is working with a lot of other smart people, and they are finding solutions for problems. When I was a child, I loved being with small children. I babysat for many years. When I grew up, I became a teacher. I loved teaching, and my days just flew by when I was in the classroom. I believe that if you look back to your youngest days, you will find what your passion really is. Usually, people take their passion for granted because they are usually so good at it, they don’t even know it is their passion. When we were children, we poo pooed what we were good at. It was fun, but it was not a desire for a lifetime of work. It was just fun. Marriage is a bit like that. Why do a lot of people who are friends not fall in love and get married? Marriages are best when the couples are friends. Friendship should be appreciated as a component of a happy marriage. Do you love your husband? Do you love your wife? As you say your vows you say it is true. Does the love last? Sometimes. The question is do you like your husband? Do you like your wife? Friends like each other. Liking your spouse is appreciating who they are. Trusting them enough to tell them your most precious secrets and not fearing they will make light of them. Liking someone who you are married to, shows you like sharing your life with that person. Marriage is a mutual admiration experience, or at least it should be. Friends like each other. Start putting value in the people you like. Start remembering your passions from when you were small. If you make you happen, you will make your life happen. You were created to be one incredibly passionate loving person. Don’t try to fit a square peg into a round hole, by becoming something that you were not meant to be. It doesn’t have to be that difficult. She wanted to be a person at the airport with the red barreled flashlights guiding planes into their airplane parking places. What happened? Will she be passionate about something else? Who knows, but she might be trying to put a square peg into a round hole by trying to create a new passion. Passion is not created. Passion is not learned. Passion is a gift given to you when you are born. Put your passion into action and you will be happy. Put friendship into your marriage and you will be happy. Go with the flow…that is all I know. Have a perfectly wonderful day.

Granny-o